I have issues, I know I do, and I’m kind of working on them…..Let me explain.

My social skills are lacking. In other words, I somehow forgot how to talk to people. Carrying on simple conversations used to be second hand nature for me. Now it’s extremely painful. I clam up! I even start sweating sometimes….

Apparently the only conversations I’m comfortable with these days, are the ones that I have with my 2 year old. Is that normal?

I have a theory.

BZ (before Z) I was actually kind of a social butterfly, and then, after she was born, I turned back into a caterpillar. I think my wings got ripped off during labor, or maybe they fell off when I was suffering from post postpartum depression! Who knows….

It's a green caterpillar With my friends and my family, I do okay, but with strangers, I PANIC! I usually say the first thing that comes to mind, and it’s usually not appropriate.

For instance, I’ve tried interacting with other Mom’s at the park, but I really SUCK at small talk.

Other Mom: “She’s cute, how old is she?”

Me: “2.5.”

Other Mom: “She’s a happy little thing isn’t she.”

Me: “Pretty much, except when she’s the DEVIL!”

And that’s usually where to conversation ends….

Regardless, I will admit one thing. I’ve never really been that great with my own kind. Women that is. I’m more of guys girl, or a tom boy I guess. Women tend to make me nervous. I think it has something to do with all the judging….. “OMG, look at her jeans, I think she mugged that homeless guy outside”, or “seriously, is she wearing socks with her sandals!”

Okay, yeesss I have worn socks with sandals, but only when the situation calls for it! And NO, I’ve never mugged a homeless guy, FYI…..

I honestly thought that having a kid would make me fit in more with the female population….Not that I had a kid just for that reason or anything…..pshhh…..who does that?

The fact of the matter is, I’ve been at home, out of the loop for so long that I’ve lost my pretty wings. Somehow, I have to get them back.

butterfly-clipart-17I will say this, since I’ve started this blog, I feel like my wings have started growing again. When I write, I get to be me. I feel like it’s okay to express myself, and ramble on about the most ridiculous crap, and for some reason I don’t care if I say the wrong thing. I figure, if you don’t like it, you won’t read it.

I can actually feel my confidence building with every post. So THANK YOU! Thanks for reading, thanks for commenting, and thanks for sharing. I should have my wings back in no time!

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6 Responses to Where Oh Where Have My Social Skills Gone, Oh Where Oh Where Can They Be

  1. Sister Shellee says:

    Ah Tasha,
    I can’t say that I have ever seen you wingless! All I can say is your butterfly wings get brighter, bigger and stronger every time I see you. You just keep using them, they will just keep getting more glorious with each passing mile stone!!! LOve you so much! Your aged and wiser sister

  2. Gina says:

    I know exactly what you mean. I used to work in retail where all I did was talk to strangers and be social. Then I chose to stay home and I feel like the most boring person in the world.

    • Momma says:

      Naahh, you’re not boring! It just takes a special person to see how exciting your life, and mine, really is!

  3. christina says:

    I can completely relate. I have a hard time fitting in with other moms…they can be a tough crowd! It’s taking time, but I am finding where I fit, too. Nice post!!

    • Momma says:

      Thanks Christina! My goal, is to not PANIC when I see a group of Mom’s hanging out at the park. The time is coming, and change is happening…. Thanks for reading!

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